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Jan 032019

The remedy for a chaste life

Faithfulness and love are the way to a life of chastity


Marriage was created in the earthly paradise where physical life was lived to a much greater spiritual degree than we have today, for Adam saw God face to face. He missed a mate. God created them and united them in marriage.

How is it possible to live chastity in the present times?

Illustrative photo: Bruno Marques /

Even decayed from paradise, there was marriage, which is a natural right, which did not require religious, social, civic, etc. ceremony. Any deal was worth it. If a man came to a woman, saying that he loved her, that he would be faithful to death, and wanted to form a family with her, they would be contracting marriage. Over time, the public ceremony was demanded, because of human weakness, which did not follow the promised commitments. People perceived something sacred there.

The problem, however, is that this marriage, without the interference of Jesus, hindered spiritual development. Looking at the past and the present, we can see how many jealousies, unemployment, time to pray that you do not have, how many diseases of children exist within marriage! We even forgot about holiness. We think that being a simple Catholic who does not sin badly is already good. We push the union with God to celibates, whose hearts must be 100% handed over to Him. Even St. Paul himself, knowing all this, recommends celibacy (I Cor. 7,1). Natural law marriage has become the greatest trap for those who want to have spiritual life.

Marriage as a sacrament

Our Lord came to call everyone to a holy life, united with Him. Among the first Christians there were not so many celibates. These have arisen over time. How did Jesus solve this impasse? He raised the marriage to a sacrament. This being only lawful if contracted by people baptized, because it is in baptism that is the key to make the marriage a sacrament, because when we are baptized we become children of God.

The sacrament is the effective symbol of what it represents. It actually produces what it shows as a symbol! Marriage is the sign that reveals the love between Christ and the Church . “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved his Church and gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:24). Christ added another purpose that was not in the natural contract, transforming it into an effective path of holiness. It is not putting your spouse and children in Jesus’ place, but rather a complete self-abnegation for the sake of the other. It brings focus to the spiritual life . Further! The bosom of a family of deep-rooted faith is the best possible environment for the best Christians to be born! Being a sacrament, marriage brings in itself the supernatural grace for this to be fulfilled.

How good and perfect God is! Against this backdrop, let us adjust our focus.

Sanctification of marriage

Marriage is a contract by which the spouses, a man and a woman, being only one companion of the other, give each other the right over their own bodies, for the use that nature has established, for the procreation and creation of the offspring . Each one owns his own body, but in marriage he is given to acts which, according to the natural order, are those which nature has instituted capable of generating offspring.  Hence, any other form of intercourse are excluded.

Marriage is for the formation of a family with generation of offspring, also for the mutual assistance of the spouses, therefore, it is possible to marry also those who can not bear children. Moreover, marriage is a remedy against concupiscence. If a person does not think about marrying, he does not feel lacking in company, but can not run out of sex, this is contradictory! It’s not good living single. One can not live chaste in today’s world without the help of God’s grace.

By Christian doctrine, the requirement of a public ceremony remains from the necessity of celebration within a Church, before the priest and witnesses, made official in document.

For most people, this is the ordinary path of sanctification. Like it or not, most people are and will be married. For these people, there is no other way of salvation except through the experience of the sacrament of matrimony . However, it remains a double-edged sword: whether one lives as a sacrament or has no sanctification. The sacramentality of marriage presupposes a regulated sex life. If he disarms, he ends up with the only chance of sanctifying himself. You may even be a practicing Catholic, but if you can not live marriage as a sacrament, you will not be able to sanctify yourself.

Hence, one realizes how sexuality has something to do with love of neighbor and sublime love!

Lastly, as far as chastity is concerned, we are here at the moment. But later, we are going to touch on one more fundamental point for singles and married couples to have a chaste life, far beyond what we put in last week’s text and this one. Stay tuned for texts.


Roger de Carvalho

Roger de Carvalho, born in Brasilia, DF, has been a member of the Canção Nova Community since 2000. Married to Elisangela Brene and father of two children. He is a student of Theology and Philosophy.
Author of the blog ” Ad Veritaten “.(Clicking on this link brings you to a blog translated by Google to Portuguese. This may not be an exact translation.)

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Jan 022019

Each stage of life demands of us growth and psychic maturation

We can say that our life has the movement of a roller coaster, with its ups and downs, slow and accelerate, ups and downs, starting point and arrival. The fear and cold in the belly, often, are the companions of this journey, so essential and at the same time, so paralyzing. The natural cycle of life consists of natural changes, such as birth, the transition from childhood to adolescence, from adolescence to adult life (consisting of young, middle, and late adult life) and finally old age.

Do not be afraid to change the course of your life.

Illustrative photo: Bruno Marques /

As much as we have a notion of what it is, it will always be new to live each step. Here you can still see people who are paralyzed at one stage of their lives, such as adults who behave as children and develop what we call the “Peter Pan Syndrome” or adults who bring the fear of getting old and live paralyzed in their way of acting and dressing, of his young adult life, what we call living the “pseudo-ideal.”

These changes, by themselves, are already rich in adventures, since each stage of life demands of us growth and psychic maturation. Let’s look at a teenager: he lives the challenges of bodily, intellectual change and still chooses the profession that will lead his life . How not to be afraid? How not to paralyze in some points? Fear is something natural of our psychic structure, which often “saves” us. The problem is when he has more strength and paralyzes us for a long time.


Do not stand in fear!

Now, let’s think about adulthood in an ordinary way. It alone is also rich in challenges: marriages, profession, pursuit of financial stability, children, work, care and concerns with aging parents, and so many other realities experienced. Realities that have as a background the desire for happiness ! Is not true?

When do situations arise that require a change, such as unemployment, which will require you to go out and get a new job, whether in the same area or even a completely different area? A change of city, country, culture? A change of lifestyle with the arrival of a child that requires specific care, because it has some disease or syndrome? A radical change in eating habits to lose weight? A change in leaving the addiction ? Ultimately, life requires us to be open to change. But often, for fear of not having control, of not knowing what will happen, for fear of not accounting, we prevent big dreams from coming true. We booze our lives and we become paralyzed in a routine that I can control.

Here, I leave a tip for anyone who feels the need for change . Dream, plan on paper, set goals for dream fulfillment, stipulate monthly and quarterly goals for the changes that need to be made and REALIZE! Change what is not good and improve what it already is! Remembering that fear will always accompany you, because it belongs to our nature, just do not stop at it!

Aline Rodrigues

Aline Rodrigues is a missionary of the Canção Nova Community, in the second link mode. She is a psychologist since 2005, with specializations in clinical and business area and post-graduate in Behavioral Cognitive Therapy. He has professional experience in clinical, business and teaching.

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