{"id":17002,"date":"2016-03-28T01:01:22","date_gmt":"2016-03-28T06:01:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/?p=17002"},"modified":"2016-02-13T16:10:10","modified_gmt":"2016-02-13T21:10:10","slug":"how-to-cope-with-traumas-of-the-past-in-the-present","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/2016\/03\/28\/how-to-cope-with-traumas-of-the-past-in-the-present\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Cope with Traumas of the Past in the Present"},"content":{"rendered":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\">The traumas of the past can interfere directly in our present<\/p>\n<\/nav>\n<div id=\"content-post\">\n<article id=\"post-81276\" class=\"post-81276 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-cura-interior tag-cura-interior tag-traumas\">\n<div class=\"entry-content\">\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Each human being is unique, with countless possibilities to experience the most diverse situations. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Since our earliest memories of childhood, we&#8217;re accumulating the most remarkable experiences throughout life; <\/span><span lang=\"en\">usually, that caused greater excitement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">A birthday party, that expected ride, a trip, the pratfalls of bike, playing with cousins, a special gift. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Are sweet memories that hark back to a time when the infant look was more awake for the details and charms of new, beautiful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-81351\" src=\"http:\/\/img.cancaonova.com\/cnimages\/canais\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2015\/10\/formacao_como-lidar-com-os-traumas-do-passado-no-presente--600x450.jpg\" alt=\"Como lidar com os traumas do passado no presente -\" width=\"600\" height=\"450\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">However, our memory is full not only of good memories. There is m<\/span><span lang=\"en\">uch talked about traumatic events experienced in various stages of child development, but there are also those that occur during the passage through adolescence and what we\u00a0face in adulthood.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Like it was yesterday<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">This other side of the coin\u00a0tends to be more difficult to elaborate. P<\/span><span lang=\"en\">ain\u00a0causes us to remember the suffering of physical or emotional violence, sexual abuse, the loss of a loved one, as well as the feelings of helplessness, loneliness and despair. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Some even claim to remember with such clarity the details of the trauma, which we could report&#8221;as if it were today&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">When you\u00a0say that sentence, you&#8217;re telling the truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Certain people carry the burden of pain that end up weighing more as time goes on. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The memory becomes as a pet, something to be remember\u00a0not to fall by the wayside or to feed a sense of victimization. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Others, on the contrary, they try to forget, at all costs, the traumatic events that appear as unwanted flashes at times. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Sometimes, they put a blanket over the past and try to live as if this pain did not exist. S<\/span><span lang=\"en\">ome even seek refuge in drugs and drink, with the desire to find a momentary comfort.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Dirt of the soul<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">First, it is important to contact the uncomfortable situation openly and transparently. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Talking about it can help in the development of what happened, especially if the event was in childhood or adolescence. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The adult you are today can support and comfort the child who you were and that I had no internal resources to deal with the situation at that time. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Embrace the pain, recognize the suffering and, if an emotion, open up the tears that can wash the dirt of the soul.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">This can be a long and painful process. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">However, we are talking about the quality of your life, the freedom you deserve to try to take that load, which leaves their slow steps.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Dark and cold lands<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">As you are walking in these dark and cold lands, you can launch a light of understanding, a hot breath of forgiveness that, gradually, will bring new meanings to\u00a0your story. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">If any step is very difficult, be patient with yourself, but don&#8217;t stop! <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Ask God for the grace needed to deal with these pains, count on the help of other people or professionals who can assist you in this process.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">In the end, you may discover that forgiveness \u2013 of the other and yourself \u2013 can and leaves you free to live without bitterness and hatred. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">You might find an inner strength that you\u00a0had no idea that you possessed, and a serene look can appear on your face, along with a smile. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">It is worth knowing a new way to visit the\u00a0past and deal with the pain that seemed eternal.<\/span><\/p>\n<footer class=\"entry-utility\">\n<figure class=\"entry-thumb\"><a class=\"entry_author_image\" href=\"http:\/\/www.microsofttranslator.com\/bv.aspx?from=pt&amp;to=en&amp;a=http%3A%2F%2Fformacao.cancaonova.com%2Fauthor%2Fmilenacarbonari%2F\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/img.cancaonova.com\/cnimages\/canais\/authors\/221_thumb.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<div class=\"entry-bloco\">\n<h2 class=\"entry-title\">Milena Carbonari<\/h2>\n<div class=\"gmail_default\"><span lang=\"en\"><span id=\"DWT332\" class=\"ZmSearchResult\">Milena<\/span> <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Carbonari Krachevski is a psychologist, graduate student in education and sex therapy, missionary of the Brazilian Catholic youth movement:\u00a0Jovens Sarados and member of the Apostolate of the theology of the body in Brazil. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Contact: psicologa.milenack@gmail.com<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"gmail_default\"><a href=\"http:\/\/formacao.cancaonova.com\/espiritualidade\/cura-interior\/como-lidar-com-os-traumas-do-passado-no-presente\/\">Portuguese version<\/a><\/div>\n<\/footer>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The traumas of the past can interfere directly in our present Each human being is unique, with countless possibilities to experience the most diverse situations. 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