{"id":17383,"date":"2016-04-11T01:01:08","date_gmt":"2016-04-11T06:01:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/?p=17383"},"modified":"2016-03-01T09:36:23","modified_gmt":"2016-03-01T14:36:23","slug":"parents-who-love-their-children-know-how-to-correct-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/2016\/04\/11\/parents-who-love-their-children-know-how-to-correct-them\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents who love their children know how to correct them"},"content":{"rendered":"<nav class=\"breadcrumbs\">\n<h2>-John Paul II said that the family, Sanctuary of life, is being threatened.<\/h2>\n<\/nav>\n<div id=\"content-post\">\n<article id=\"post-24714\" class=\"post-24714 post type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-educacao-de-filhos tag-educacao-de-filhos-2 tag-familia-2 tag-filho tag-pais-e-filhos-2\">\n<div class=\"entry-content\">\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Are we creating false, alternative families, like\u00a0coins without value. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Creating a counterfeit currency is a crime, because it devalues the real material.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Children are the fruit of couples, because God told the couple: &#8220;be fruitful and multiply&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">It&#8217;s an order from the Father,\u00a0not an\u00a0alternative.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-83290 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/img.cancaonova.com\/cnimages\/canais\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2013\/01\/formacao_pais-que-amam-seus-filhos-sabem-corrigi-los.jpg\" alt=\" Jo\u00e3o Paulo II dizia que a fam\u00edlia \u00e9 santu\u00e1rio da vida, mas ela est\u00e1 sendo amea\u00e7ada Est\u00e3o criando fam\u00edlias falsas, alternativas, assim como moedas sem valor. Criar uma moeda falsa \u00e9 crime, porque ela desvaloriza a verdadeira. Os filhos s\u00e3o frutos de casais. Deus disse ao casal: \u201ccrescei e multiplicai\u201d, \u00e9 uma ordem do Pai e ela n\u00e3o \u00e9 facultativa. A primeira dimens\u00e3o do casal \u00e9 crescer. A mulher tem de crescer por causa do marido, tem de ser mais feliz por causa dele; e o marido precisa crescer por causa da esposa, precisa ser feliz por causa dela. O casamento come\u00e7a a fracassar quando um n\u00e3o \u00e9 fermento de crescimento para o outro. Eu tenho certeza de que, na eternidade, Deus vai dizer a muitas mulheres: \u201cMuito obrigado, porque eu lhe dei um homem dif\u00edcil, sem f\u00e9, mas voc\u00ea mudou a vida desse meu filho, voc\u00ea o fez crescer, entrar para a gl\u00f3ria\u201d. O Senhor tamb\u00e9m vai dizer para muitos homens: \u201cEu lhe dei uma mulher complicada, mas voc\u00ea a fez crescer\u201d. Essa \u00e9 a beleza do casamento, voc\u00ea ver o outro crescer. A educa\u00e7\u00e3o dos filhos se d\u00e1 pelo amor do casal Quando um casal se ama de verdade, a educa\u00e7\u00e3o dos filhos \u00e9 muito f\u00e1cil, porque o exemplo transborda para estes. Educamos os filhos pela vida. Se esse casal vive brigando, se n\u00e3o reza, ser\u00e1 dif\u00edcil educ\u00e1-los. Hoje, muitos jovens n\u00e3o querem casar por causa do exemplo de seus pais. N\u00e3o podemos passar para os filhos essa imagem negativa do casamento. O matrim\u00f4nio \u00e9 obra de Deus. N\u00e3o separe o homem o que Deus uniu, disse Jesus. Por amor aos filhos temos de viver bem, eles t\u00eam de ser motiva\u00e7\u00e3o para que n\u00f3s casais superemos as dificuldades. Qual a melhor forma de corrigir o outro? Reze pela pessoa antes de apontar um defeito. Aponte primeiro a qualidade, escolha a hora certa para falar, n\u00e3o corrija na frente do outros, corrija com carinho, com palavras doces, n\u00e3o humilhando na frente dos outros. N\u00e3o desenterre os erros do passado, todos n\u00f3s os temos. Regra de ouro \u00c0s vezes, numa briga, jogamos erros do passado que machucam os outros. N\u00e3o seja displicente com a pessoa amada. Quando o marido chega, voc\u00ea tem de parar o que est\u00e1 fazendo e receb\u00ea-lo. Regue seu casamento. Saiba pedir perd\u00e3o e perdoe: \u201cEu errei, n\u00e3o vou mais fazer isso\u201d. Todos n\u00f3s erramos e temos direito de ser perdoados, mas devemos pedir perd\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m. Quando um n\u00e3o quer, dois n\u00e3o brigam, cat\u00f3lico n\u00e3o briga. A melhor educa\u00e7\u00e3o que damos para os filhos \u00e9 a nossa vida. &quot;Filho de peixe \u00e9 peixinho&quot;. Os pais que amam seus filhos os corrigem. Deus deu autoridade aos pais para a corre\u00e7\u00e3o, pois toda paternidade vem de Deus, diz o ap\u00f3stolo. N\u00e3o precisa usar de viol\u00eancia, palavras ofensivas; corrija com amor, sen\u00e3o, mais tarde, voc\u00ea n\u00e3o conseguir\u00e1 educ\u00e1-los. Meu pai sempre dizia: \u201dN\u00e3o fa\u00e7am nada contra sua consci\u00eancia, n\u00e3o compensa\u201d. Quando est\u00e1vamos numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o dif\u00edcil, ele dizia: \u201cSustenta o fogo, a vitoria ser\u00e1 nossa\u201d. Eu tive um pai maravilhoso! Como conquistar um filho? Para que os pais deem ensinamentos aos seus filhos \u00e9 preciso que esses os conquistem. Se n\u00e3o conquist\u00e1-los, ele n\u00e3o vai ouvi-los. Como conquistar um filho? Fazendo-o ter orgulho de voc\u00ea, um santo orgulho. Dando para ele todo o dinheiro que ele quer? N\u00e3o! Se assim for, o pobre n\u00e3o vai poder conquistar os filhos. Voc\u00ea n\u00e3o conquista seu filho dando-lhe coisas, mas quando se d\u00e1 a ele. \u00c9 claro que podemos dar algumas coisas, dentro do equil\u00edbrio, dentro da condi\u00e7\u00e3o financeira, mas n\u00e3o \u00e9 isso que vai conquist\u00e1-lo. Voc\u00ea precisa ter tempo para seu filho, gastar seu tempo com ele, principalmente quando crian\u00e7a at\u00e9 a adolesc\u00eancia. \u201cAh! Mas tenho as coisas da Igreja\u201d. A Igreja precisa vir em segundo lugar, pois voc\u00ea \u00e9 pai, n\u00e3o \u00e9 padre. Deus nos d\u00e1 o tempo suficiente, n\u00e3o somos padres e freiras, somos pais e m\u00e3es, n\u00e3o podemos deixar nossos filhos carentes de pai e m\u00e3e. Deus quer que cuidemos de nossos filhos. N\u00e3o ter medo da vida O casamento \u00e9 uma miss\u00e3o sagrada e uma parte dessa miss\u00e3o \u00e9 educar os filhos para Deus. Muito mais importante que criar um computador \u00e9 criar um filho, um ser humano imagem e semelhan\u00e7a de Deus. \u201cO filho \u00e9 o dom mais excelente do casamento\u201d (CIC). Jo\u00e3o Paulo II dizia: \u201cN\u00e3o tenham medo da vida\u201d. Os casais cat\u00f3licos est\u00e3o com medo da vida, alguns por comodismo, porque filho gasta, d\u00e1 trabalho... \u00c9 claro que d\u00e1 trabalho! Conquiste seu filho dando-se a ele. Voc\u00ea n\u00e3o vai mimar essa crian\u00e7a, mas dar a ela aquilo que precisa receber: educa\u00e7\u00e3o religiosa, moral e intelectual. E isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 s\u00f3 para o filho pequeno. Quando for preciso chamar aten\u00e7\u00e3o de seu filho, reze por ele e o repreenda em um lugar reservado, nunca na frente dos outros. Uma coisa que precisamos aprender \u00e9 que pai tamb\u00e9m erra e precisa pedir perd\u00e3o ao filho. Se voc\u00ea n\u00e3o perder sua autoridade, seu filho vai am\u00e1-lo mais. Antes de levar o seu filho para Deus precisa conquist\u00e1-lo Outra coisa que ajuda a conquistar os filhos \u00e9 lev\u00e1-los para Deus. N\u00e3o vamos conseguir lev\u00e1-los para Deus sem antes conquist\u00e1-los. N\u00e3o adianta querer lev\u00e1-los pelo colarinho, porque eles v\u00e3o s\u00f3 at\u00e9 os 15 anos e depois abandonam a Igreja. Antes de dizer ao seu filho que Deus o ama, voc\u00ea precisa dizer: \u201cEu o amo\u201d. Ele vai sentir o amor de Deus pelo amor dos pais. &quot;A b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o do pai fortalece a casa de seus filhos, a maldi\u00e7\u00e3o de uma m\u00e3e a arrasa at\u00e9 os alicerces&quot; (Eclesi\u00e1stico 3,11). Voc\u00ea precisa aben\u00e7oar seus filhos.\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1200\" \/><br \/>\n<sup>Photo: Daniel Mafra\/cancaonova.com<\/sup><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">The first dimension of the couple is to grow. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The woman has to grow because of her husband she has to be happier because of him; <\/span><span lang=\"en\">and the husband needs to grow because of his\u00a0wife, he has to\u00a0be happy for her. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The marriage begins to fail when one is not the other growing for the other. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">I&#8217;m sure, in eternity, God will tell many women: &#8220;thank you very much, because I gave you\u00a0a difficult\u00a0man, without faith, but you changed the life of my son, you made him mature, go to glory&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The Lord will also say to many men: &#8220;I gave you a complicated woman, but you made\u00a0her mature&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">That&#8217;s the beauty of the wedding, see each\u00a0other grow.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>The education of the children if the couple&#8217;s love<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">When a couple loves each other in truth, educating the children is easy, because the example overflows for them. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Educate the children for life, but if this couple is always\u00a0fighting, and they do not pray; it will be difficult to educate the little ones.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Today, many young people do not want to get married because of the example of their parents.<\/span><span lang=\"en\">So, we cannot pass onto the children the negative image of marriage. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Marriage is God&#8217;s work. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">&#8220;No man may put asunder what God has joined,&#8221; said Jesus. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Because we love children, we need to live well, they have to be motivation for us to overcome the difficulties as couples.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>What is the best way to fix the other?<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Pray for the person before pointing out a flaw. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Point out first the quality, choose the right time to talk, do not correct in front of the others and correct with affection, with sweet words, do not humiliate them in front of others. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Don&#8217;t dig up past mistakes, we all have them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Sometimes, in a fight, we play with\u00a0past mistakes that hurt others. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Don&#8217;t be careless with your beloved.<\/span><span lang=\"en\">When the husband comes, you have to stop what you are doing and receive him. Irrigate<\/span><span lang=\"en\">\u00a0your marriage. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Learn to ask for forgiveness and forgive: &#8220;I was wrong, I won&#8217;t do that&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">We all make mistakes and we&#8217;re entitled to be forgiven, but we must ask forgiveness too. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">It takes two to tango.<\/span><span lang=\"en\">The best education we give to the children is our life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Parents who love their children correct them. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">God gave authority to the parents for correct them because all paternity comes from the Lord, says the apostle. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">No need to use violence or offensive words;\u00a0correct<\/span><span lang=\"en\">\u00a0with love, or later, you won&#8217;t be able to raise them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">My father always said, &#8220;don&#8217;t do anything against your conscience, it does not\u00a0pay&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">When we were in a difficult situation, he said: &#8220;persevere in the fire, the victory will be ours.&#8221; <\/span><span lang=\"en\">I had a wonderful father!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>How to conquer?<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">For parents to give lessons to their children, they need to win them over. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">If you don&#8217;t win them over, they\u00a0won&#8217;t listen to you. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">How to conquer a son? Giving him reason to be\u00a0<\/span><span lang=\"en\">proud of you, a Holy pride. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Give\u00a0your children\u00a0all the money they want?\u00a0<\/span><span lang=\"en\">No! <\/span><span lang=\"en\">If that were so, the poor wouldn&#8217;t be able to win over\u00a0their children. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">You do not conquer your children\u00a0by giving them things, but when you are asked\u00a0you may give to the child. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Of course, we have to have a few things in the balance, within our\u00a0financial condition, but that&#8217;s not what&#8217;s going to win a child\u00a0over.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">You need to have time for your children, spend your time with them, especially as a child until adolescence. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">&#8220;Ah! <\/span><span lang=\"en\">But have I things to do in the Church &#8220;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">The Church needs come second, because you are a father, not a priest. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">God gives us long enough, we are not priests or nuns, we are moms and dads, we can&#8217;t leave our children to be in the care of our own\u00a0father and mother. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">God wants us to take care of our children.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Don&#8217;t be afraid of life<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Marriage is a sacred mission and a part of this mission is to educate the children to God. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Much more important than creating a computer is to create a baby, a human being in the image and likeness of God. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">&#8220;The child\u00a0is the most excellent gift of marriage&#8221; (CIC). <\/span><span lang=\"en\">John Paul II said: &#8220;don&#8217;t be afraid of life. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Catholic couples are afraid of life, some for convenience, because a child\u00a0costs money, takes work. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Of course\u00a0a child\u00a0takes work!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Win over\u00a0your child by giving yourself to him or her. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">You&#8217;re not going to spoil this child, but give a child\u00a0what he or she\u00a0needs receive: religious education, moral and intellectual. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">And this isn&#8217;t just for the young son or daughter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">When you have\u00a0to call attention to your child, pray for him or her and scold in a quiet place, not in front of others. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">One thing we need to learn if the parent is\u00a0wrong and he or she needs to apologize to the child.<\/span><span lang=\"en\">If you do not lose your authority, your child will love\u00a0you\u00a0more.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Before you take your children\u00a0to God must win them over<\/h3>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">Another thing that helps conquer the kids is to get them to God, but we will not achieve this without winning them over. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">There&#8217;s no point to taking them by the collar because they will just attend until they are 15 years old and then leave the Church. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">Before you tell your child &#8220;God loves you,&#8221; you have to say: &#8220;I love you&#8221;. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">He will feel the love of God from\u00a0the love of the parents.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=\"en\">&#8220;The blessing of the father strengthens house their children, the curse of a mother rocks until the foundations&#8221; (Sirach 3.11). <\/span><span lang=\"en\">You need to bless your\u00a0children.<\/span><\/p>\n<footer id=\"autor_info\" class=\"entry-utility\">\n<figure class=\"entry-thumb\"><a class=\"entry_author_image\" href=\"http:\/\/www.microsofttranslator.com\/bv.aspx?from=&amp;to=en&amp;a=http%3A%2F%2Fformacao.cancaonova.com%2Fauthor%2Ffelipeaquino%2F\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/img.cancaonova.com\/cnimages\/canais\/authors\/46_thumb.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n<div class=\"entry-bloco\">\n<h2 class=\"entry-title\">Felipe Aquino<\/h2>\n<p><em>Prof Felipe Aquino<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><span lang=\"en\">Professor Felipe Aquino\u00a0is a\u00a0widower, father of five children. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">On TV Can\u00e7\u00e3o Nova he presents the program \u201cEscola da F\u00e9\u201d [School of faith] and \u201cPergunte e Responderemos\u201d [Ask and respond], on Radio he presents the program \u201cin the heart of the Church\u201d. <\/span><span lang=\"en\">On weekends he preaches deepening meetings throughout Brazil and abroad. 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