{"id":5990,"date":"2011-02-11T01:01:17","date_gmt":"2011-02-11T05:01:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/?p=5990"},"modified":"2011-02-05T14:02:29","modified_gmt":"2011-02-05T18:02:29","slug":"if-my-conscience-tells-me-that-sleeping-with-my-girlfriend-is-okay-then-it-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.cancaonova.com\/catholicismanew\/2011\/02\/11\/if-my-conscience-tells-me-that-sleeping-with-my-girlfriend-is-okay-then-it-is\/","title":{"rendered":"Is It Ok To Sleep with My Girlfriend, If My Conscience Says It Is Ok?"},"content":{"rendered":"

[William Jackson is a Deacon Candidate for the Archdiocese of Boston. He was given the assignment to respond to the issue in italics. His words are the answer. His teacher enjoyed his answer and I felt it would be a good one to share not only with the US Community, but also the Spanish and Portuguese Communities that Can\u00e7\u00e3o Nova serve<\/em>s. -ed.]<\/p>\n

What is the response to this situation:<\/p>\n

“If my conscience tells me that sleeping with my girlfriend is okay, then it is.”<\/em><\/div>\n
Answer:<\/div>\n

It really is not okay.\u00a0 Let me explain why.\u00a0 Your body and your girlfriend\u2019s body is a gift, a temple made by and for the Lord that is to be respected by both of you.\u00a0 Sex is a gift from God; it is what we do with that gift that we come to understand what is wrong with having random sexual activity.\u00a0 Sex can be looked at, keeping it simple, as a means of pleasure, release.\u00a0 This concept is good if we follow the moral order.\u00a0 We need to think about what comes first.\u00a0 You and your girlfriend should enjoy a period of courtship, getting to know each other, finding out whether or not you are a compatible couple.\u00a0 You should treat your body and your girlfriend\u2019s body as sacred.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s get down to brass tacks.\u00a0 There are steps in every relationship.\u00a0 Sex should be the last step.\u00a0 We get to know each other, we court, we enjoy the newness of a relationship, that special smile, that glance, that feeling of being safe, dinners together, looking forward to being with that special person on Saturday night, date night, which hopefully leads to falling in love, getting engaged, and with God\u2019s grace, receiving the sacrament of marriage.<\/p>\n

When you save yourself for marriage, you save yourself on so many fronts.\u00a0 The moral order is not disturbed.\u00a0 You know each other, because you took the time to court your girlfriend, fell in love and made a commitment to be with each other for life, ie, the sacrament of matrimony.\u00a0\u00a0 Children will then be born into a family consisting of a mom and a dad that are in love, whose love makes a home for themselves and their children.\u00a0 Just look around and see all of the single parents who do not follow a moral code, so to speak, who had children out of wedlock.\u00a0 The child\u2019s parents are not together and usually the “feelings” they had for each other wanes, if not disintegrates over a period of time.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 There is no commitment.\u00a0 Every child deserves a mother and a father that love each other.\u00a0 This love between a mom and a dad overflows to their children, making a family!<\/p>\n

Be careful with what your conscience is telling you, because sometimes it is not your conscience, but a little devil sitting on your left shoulder whispering in your ear, “It is okay.”\u00a0 Remember Adam and Eve!\u00a0 So if you are not ready to commit yourself to these basic but powerful truths, the moral order, keep your zipper closed.<\/p>\n

William Jackson
\nDeacon (Cand.)
\nSt. Benedict Parish<\/a>
\nSomerville, MA<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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