Chastity Teaches Us to Love

Love crosses, in the years, a road hidden through the rise and strengthening of new customs. Actually, a more liberal relationship is now accepted, in which the couple can deepen their physical intimacy and experiment even before marriage. However, we have another option: chastity. This is the light that the Lord gives to us to control our inclination to carnal pleasures. This moral virtue is capable of providing a healthy relationship, integrated, and, therefore, within what God desires for us. There are diverse reasons to cultivate chastity.

Sexual abstinence permits the couple to concentrate on knowing each other, in sharing joys and sadness, points of view and experiences. Thus, ties of frienship are created and through them dialogue.

Not knowing the other deeply can bring disenchantment, and even seeking persons that can bring more satisfaction. Moreover, the search for sexual intercourse, or simply fondling, can eclipse gradually other forms of communication among the lovers, preventing the development of the relationship.

One aspect affirmed by some youth is that sexual relations can prolong a relationship that becomes undesirable over the long time. Chastity facilitates the breaking of an emotional bond, built upon nothing more than too much physical intimacy.

The fact of being chaste avoids confusions, feelings of guilt and stress, beyond repenting for having done something that you should not.

Many are or will be mocked for making this difficult decision. They will be characterized as fragile; however, as Felipe Aquino writes in his book ‘Namoro’ [Courtship], “The greatness of man is not measured by his power to dominate others, but through the capacity to dominate himself.”

Mahatma Ghandi, the celebrate leader of India, said: “Chastity…is one of the major disciplines, without which the mind cannot achieve the necessary strength.”

“Sexual abstinence permits that the couple concentrates on knowing each other.” Thiago Thomaz

A crucial point of courtship is knowing to love. But how can a person love is he does not possess himself? Therefore, self-domination is fundamental for someone to be capable of giving himself to others. Chastity, therefore, is not a privation, is a giving, a noble expression of love. To practice it, “Watch and pray that you do not enter into temptation. The Spirit is ready, but the flesh is weak.” (Mt 26:41). Logically, it is necessary to avoid opportune situations, beyond frequenting communion and confession.

The Catholic Church makes clear her position on sex before marriage: This is an instrument of expression of conjugal love and of procreation. Therefore, we are invited to live chastely. We are free become we can make the better choice.

Reflect and choose that which you desire for you life!

Thiago Thomaz Puccini (Jovens Sarados – Missão Barra Funda) via destrave.cancaonova.com