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Feb 232017
 

Worrying signs that parents are not knowing raise children

In the process of educating the children, we cannot guarantee the effectiveness of models, after all, people are different. There are, however, trails to be traveled, which lead to the journey of educating children successfully most of the time.

We found that the parents of other generations also made mistakes, but firmly led their children. In General, there were many directions providing an authoritarian model, but with clear boundaries. In the current education, we observe a democratization of parental power, where children tell what they think, but they are weak in respect for the rights of others.

Sinais preocupantes que os pais não estão sabendo educar os filhosPhoto: Copyright: Juanmonino

Balance in education

In the previous generations’ models, there was the punishment, sometimes violent, but limited. There is a need of disciplining the child so that they understand that life is made with responsibilities and rewards; and when they break something, they will be held accountable for their actions. However, there will be positive acts which may bring compliments. The trick is to balance discipline with rewards, with emphasis on the second, to work the pulse of life that we all have inside of us.

To experience a democratic model, it is necessary to establish rules that often the children don’t like, because they aren’t mature enough to choose. The parents don’t ask if the children want to go to school, because if that happened, they, of course, would prefer to play. To care for and love the children, take them to school and explain, within the comprehension of each one, that in life there are moments for work and for leisure.

Attention to the limits

A caution is important: as the child matures, the limits are more “flexible” towards correct choices. On the other hand, there are parents who give in too much or they allow themselves to be manipulated by the ways of children.

It is important that parents have authority. The maintaining dominance over one’s emotions is a sign that the situation is under control. For example: If the parents yell a lot, they end up giving tips for children as these adults can’t handle pressure.

On Target in the education of children

A difficulty of current education is that parents want to be friends with the children, which is ok, as long as they are not afraid to be parents as is their duty. Or they become slaves, doing for their children and not allowing them to do tasks suitable to their age.

Want to know if you are on target? Listen to your children, talk about feelings and projects. They need to make sure they can count on you to help them, but also know that they will be held accountable if they do not respect the rights of others, fail to comply with their obligations or jeopardize their own happiness.

Ângela Abdo

Ângela Abdo is coordinator of the Group of mothers who pray for the children of St. Camillus of Léllis Parish Espiritu Santo and assists in the study of the National Guide to RCC. She acts as curator of the Foundation Nossa Senhora da Penha and leads workshops on strategic planning and people management to pastoral leadership.

Abdo is a graduate in Social work by UFES and postgraduate in human resources administration and business management. Has a master’s degree in accounting from Fucape. Acts as a consultant on small, medium and large private and public sector companies as quality and human resources Advisor and as a social worker of the CST (workers Solidarity Center). Is current President of ABRH (Brazilian Association of human resources) of the Espiritu Santo and Director, Manager and counselor of Vitória Apart Hospital.

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Feb 222017
 

So many people cry with rage when they reach the limit.

Often, we are so angry about the situations of the day, we use the expression: “I reached my limit, I can’t take it anymore!”. So many people cry with rage when they’re in this peak of stress; others, cry out without thinking. But later repent. Anyway, we have a limit and it is normal for us to reach it!

But how do we react? Crying or screaming will solve what? I tell you something that works for me: when I’m at my limit, if I can’t solve the situation at the time, I go to the Chapel, cool down, relax a little and then seek to resolve the situation.

Several unresolved situations generate much greater stress. Never handle anything hot; on the contrary, seek always the best way to solve the problem without hurting people.

May the Lord God teach you to deal with the hardships of life.

God bless you.
Your brother, Eto

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Feb 212017
 

1600x1200-por-que-ir-a-igrejaGo to church, because there we find the community gathered. Go to the Church to return home better than we left for home. 

In regions where the lack of water is quite detrimental to the survival of the human being, the water trucks are indispensable for many families so that they may receive, the minimum water necessary for their survival. Without that vehicle, which takes the water from its reservoir, many families would be condemned to live with the lack of water. And everyone knows that this liquid is an element necessary for our survival.

The water truck carrying the water is, in some ways, bringing life to all those who depend on this substance to stay alive. It fulfills the role of being a river where there are none.

Many people wonder what is the importance of participating in Church. Many turn away from the Christian community for a variety of reasons. Others to participate, but they return home the same way you came. In the midst of a society that will very quickly create the mentality that spirituality is something, what’s the point of participating in church? Why go to church?

Often, we arrive at Church like a water truck,empty, without the necessary water as a sign of life. Before the mystery of God, the Word proclaimed, reflected and meditated, the bread and wine become the body and blood of Christ, let’s be of life in fullness offered by Christ himself. Thereby, we return home full of living water, and thus we can share with those around us the water was deposited in us in our heart.

The heart is the life in fullness, in which we take God’s love to our brothers and sisters. When we participate in the Church, our heart is empty and dry. How can one quench thirst for someone else, if you don’t have even enough water to quench his own thirst?

A water truck only fulfills its role if it is filled with water. A human being ca only feel complete as a person if hes stocked for the presence of God. Why go to church? Because it is the source of living water which quenches our interior. And because, once supplied with the presence of God within us, we can take this same water to all those who ask for a drop of water of life, which give them the sense of living in a society that shares other artificial waters do not quench the thirst; but on the contrary, human beings always have more thirst for true life.

Go to church, because there we find the community gathered. In Union with the brothers and sisters of the community, we share the pains and joys of living in a “common unity”. Go to church, because that’s where the miracle of the Eucharist takes place in all holy masses celebrated. Go to the Church to return home better than we got.

Many people, when they return home, they hear from their families: “you have been praying and came back worse?”. When we come home fueled the love of Christ in us, it is impossible to get back to everyday life the same way. Only those who had their thirst quenched by God can quench the thirst for other people with the same love that he received.

If the water truck takes the water that quenches the biological human thirst , we are invited to leave the Church with the heart fueled with the living water that quenches our thirst for human-divine love.

Padre Flávio Sobreiro

Father Flávio Sobreiro is the paroquial vicar of Our Lady of Fatima parish in Santa Rita do Sapucaí, in the Archdiocese of Pouso Alegre, Minas Gerais (MG), Brazil. He is the author of the book “Amor Sem Fronteiras” [Love Without Borders] from Editora Canção Nova. For more information on Father please see: facebook.com/peflaviosobreiro

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Feb 202017
 

We ourselves benefit by our allegiance to God

In my life I see the faithfulness of God toward me, from small to large things.
I’m not saying this only with regard to material goods, but to spiritual as well.

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So many times when I’m tired, God finds me and gives me a chance to rest; When I’m discouraged, I get letters from our associates talking about Canção Nova is their lives; and when I’m sad, God is always sending someone to cheer me up.

Brothers,experience God’s care every day, but one thing is certain, God sees my struggle for allegiance. Every day I wake at  4:30AM to pray, I go to Mass every day, I study the word and seek to be with him every day.
Soon, I realize in these affectionate gestures of God that He acknowledges that I struggle to be faithful and with that, He comes to my rescue.

Brothers, I wish you to live this beautiful experience of God’s care, but first of all, let us be faithful and God,who is true, we will honor his infinite faithfulness.

Your brother,
Wellington Garden (Eto)
Co-founder of the community and administrator of FJPII new song

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Feb 172017
 

 Christians of the first centuries did not hesitate in saying that “The world was created for the sake of the Church.” Saint Clemens of Alexandria (died in 215 AD) stated:

“Just as God’s will is creation and is called “the world,” so his intention is the salvation of men, and it is called “the Church” (CCC  760).

Many children of that loving Mother knew how to be faithful to Her up to the end. In 1988, Monsignor Ignatius Ong Pin-Mei, Bishop of Shangai, after being kept in jail for 30 long years in China because of his love for the Christ and faithfulness to the Catholic Church, declared on the following day of his release from prison:

“I stayed faithful to the Roman Catholic Church. Thirty years of prison did not change me. I kept my faith. I am ready to go back to prison tomorrow to defend my faith.”

The Cardinal of Czechoslovakia Frantisek Tomasek, Archbishop of Prague was living hard times of communist persecution in 1985. A reporter asked him: “Your Eminency, are you not tired of combating unsuccessfully?” And he answered:

 

“I always repeat: those who work for the Kingdom of God do a lot; those who pray, do more; those who suffer, do everything. That everything is exactly the little we do here in Czechoslovakia” (IL Sabato 8, 14/06/85, p.11), (PR,  284, Jan 1986).

 

It is opportune to remember here that a few years later, in 1989, communism started to crumble all through the Iron Curtain…

Christians of all times shed their blood because of their faith in the Church; starting with the martyrs of the Roman Empire, followed by the martyrs of Nazism and Communism and also of modern times.

Tertullian, Bishop and Historian of the Church during the III Century, wrote to the Emperor of his time telling him that it was useless to kill Christians because “the blood of the martyrs is the seed of new Christians”. The more Christians were devoured by beasts, burnt at the stake and slain by the sword, the bigger was Christianity in Rome, up to the time when the Roman Emperor Constantine himself converted to Christ, around the year 313 AD, and finally banned the persecution of Christians.

In the year 390 AC the Emperor Theodosius made Christianism the official religion of Roman Empire. Years later, his successor Julian, the Apostate, wanted to revive paganism but it was too late; he died with this exclamation in his lips: “You won, o Galileo!”

Prof Felipe Aquino

Professor Felipe Aquino is a widower, father of five children. On TV Canção Nova he presents the program “Escola da Fé” [School of faith] and “Pergunte e Responderemos” [Ask and respond], on Radio he presents the program “in the heart of the Church”. On weekends he preaches deepening meetings throughout Brazil and abroad. He wrote 73 books of Catholic background by publishers, Loyola and Cleopas and Canção Nova. His teacher’s page:www.cleofas.com.br Twitter: @pfelipeaquino

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Feb 162017
 

Back to first love

How can we return to first love?
Learn what it takes to get back to first love

Padre Paulo Ricardo fala sobre o amor, a fé e a esperança. Foto: Daniel Mafra/cancaonova.com

Father Paulo Ricardo
Photo: Daniel Mafra/cancaonova.com

The Jesus Revolution 2017 Retreat, which has as its theme ‘ back to first love ‘, is coming to an end. At this point, we begin our normal walk in common time, it’s time to experience our baptism. But, going to the theme of the retreat, returning to the first love, we can bring up the the question: “How can we live our baptism, so that it can be a revival in the first love?”. It is therefore necessary to cultivate the growth of three theological virtues: faith (believing), hope (remember) and charity (love). When they grow, they grow all the other virtues, and so we’re back to first love.

To better explain this process, I’m going to compare the stages of growth of these virtues (faith, hope and charity) with the growth of a normal love between a girl and a boy. Let’s assume that, first, the boy, seeing the girl, is surprised and immediately thinks: “this woman could be my wife and the mother of my children.” Okay, this is the first step: the desire of knowledge by means of intelligence. In relation to the virtue of faith,it  occurs something like: we know God by faith. In this initial process, the boy will get information and learn about the qualities of the girl. Similarly, by faith – which is a virtue connected to knowledge – we know best who is God, so that we can love him even better. The virtue of faith, therefore, is the virtue of intelligence illuminated by the grace of God.

Meeting only is not enough to be a dating, in the next step (hope) there must be a mutual understanding. For her to fall for him, comes in the “memory” feature: he will be in touch with her more often, send messages, gifts and even do things her way. The message here is: no one falls in love with someone whom he or she doesn’t even remember. As anyone knows who’s in love. When you remember that person all the time, you dream, make plans, design the future. This, therefore, is the virtue of hope: sure of what exists, but you still can’t see that someone one remembers that he or she loves. One is taken by the desire to be with that person. Therefore, the desire (hope) needs memory.

The next step is the decision (will), which is linked to the virtue of charity. The girl and the boy decide freely to choose each other (or not). The charity, while virtue, is the decision of choosing to love your neighbor despite the degree of knowledge or memory. It is a decision, a choice. Love, therefore, resides in the will, feelings aside.

In this way, the intelligence (faith), memory (hope) and will (charity) are the three steps to get back to first love with God. The love of God is the third floor of a building that has two other: If you don’t build the first two, the third will not exist. Without it, love looks like a straw fire, it wears off, walking tolukewarmness.

Well, in short, to build concretely these three stories (faith, hope, and charity), we need:

Faith – believe strongly in the love of God, which is revealed to us through Jesus Christ, who gave himself up on the cross, died, and rose again, and is with us all the time. Believe, above all, in dogmas and sacraments of the Church; not a devotional practice alone, but a close relationship through the practice of daily prayer. Believe what God said and not just on what we’re seeing.

Hope – remember what God gives to us, he’s with us. When we remember that touch of the soul, that moment of prayer, we are taken by a desire to be with Jesus again.

Charity-deciding, so concrete, to love Jesus in brother. As we are loved by God, we need to take advantage of all our opportunities of personal suffering to love one another as Jesus loved us on the cross.

So, to get back to first love, we need to go through these three stages: believe in Jesus Christ, to remember him and love him. Even if it hurts, even if it’s uncomfortable, we must love him and surrender ourselves to Him. This is the way: our faith, hope and charity.

Fr. Paulo Ricardo Azevedo, Jr

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