What Does Sex Communicate?

Every word is an attempt to communicate. All gestures provide ways to communicate. A handshake, here in Brazil, is a sign of friendliness. For the cowboy give a drink to someone who is thirsty, at least say “you can be part of our circle of friends.” Coffee offered by a miner and accepting the reception given by him.

 

Brazilian gestures communicate a lot. But if we look at other cultures they will have different gestures that speak much. In Tibetan culture, for example, some tribes greet  showing tongue, a sign that they will never pronounce offensive words against friend. Already the natives of New Guinea when a loved one goes away, they say goodbye weeping and muddying up altogether. Gestures that bring a lot of meaning to them.

And the sex? What meaning does it have or should it have? When a couple  has intercourse, what are they saying? What significance does it have? What meaning does it bring to life to each partner?

Intercourse says: “I give myself entirely to you and I receive  you in full. Once I receive and give myself it is done always. “

Then you can say, “Man, this is too extreme! I do not see sex that way To me it’s just pleasure, a moment of joy and being ready! This definition you brought is very romanticized. “ Then I tell him, “Dude, sorry . . .”

What I mean is that the one who created sex was God and He has put a sense, a meaning to this gesture. Whether you want to or not, every time you have a sexual relationship you will be saying: “I give myself entirely to you and get in full. Once I give and receive, is forever. “

However, if you say it in a sexual relationship, but this is not your truth, because to you it is only the pleasure of the moment, something only the body, which is experiencing is actually a lie.

It says: “I give my entire being and I receive your entire being ” but if you give only the body and receive only the body. You do not give your feelings, your emotions, your desires, your love and your soul, the relationship is a lie.

I say: “I give and receive a view of a ‘forever’.” Every encounter marks us forever, especially a sexual relationship! But what happens after a few relationships without commitment? You put on your pants, give a kiss goodbye (maybe) and do not see the other one anymore.

Or will you tell me: “Adriano, we have been together for three years. We have sex and are sure that we will be married. “ So I tell you that is still “noisy” this intercourse because with the soul and body you say “you are completely for each other,” but as we are spiritual beings, you lack God’s part in this relationship, you lack the commitment from Him before the altar that everything rises to fullness. So, my dear, this is not full sex.

When God says that sex is total surrender in view of a “forever”, he puts an indispensable ingredient for such purpose: love.

Love rules feelings, emotions, sexual urges in order of total surrender and always two people in love. When they dated and committed to marriage, love teaches us to protect a loved one, makes us wait to give ourselves by integers and definitively. When we got married and we go to the wedding, love touches us the surrender of two people who love each other; delivery not only of bodies, but of souls in a profound harmony of mind. The Holy Spirit, present there, that seals around the eternal love!

You then can say: “You’re saying that sex is, but to me sex is just time to vent and ready.”

Excuse me, God created sex, and as a manufacturer he gave the “instruction manual”. Not to be read or interpreted according to what you think, you can not do it without living the fullness of all that awaits you.

Many want to experience sexuality as a “no” to the person. There is no healthy sexuality without a perfect order of love.

Love promises to be ‘forever’, and sex is in marriage, one of the gestures of giving yourself completely to someone you love!

together!

 

Adriano Gonçalves

from Minas Gerais (MG), Adriano Gonçalves dos Santos is a member of New Song Community. He studied Philosophy at the Institute of Community and is studying academic psychology in Unisal (Lorraine). He is a host of TV Canção Nova’s Revolução program which is a mission that challenges young people to be holy while being young. Hence, it proposes this to a new generation: the generation of Saints in Jeans. He is the author of the several books: Including “Saints in Jeans”.

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