The new year can bring us feelings that border the depression

“I couldn’t lose weight the five pounds that I had as a goal at the beginning of the year.”“I haven’t completed my exams; I did all the paperwork” “I end a relationship with my fiané after five years.” “I didn’t make the trip we had planned.”

The New Year is a time in which, whether we like it or not, we are subjected to numerous assessments and evaluations. The shops close for inventory, companies do “performance evaluations”, the University courses focus on their freshman selection processes; on TV, we have numerous “retrospectives”, including on Facebook and Instragram in the “invite” we present our retrospective of the past year.

My dear, there is no escape, because the universe conspires “against you “. Stop for a moment and realize what has you have lived became a fact with which you needed to know to deal.

You may be asking yourself: “why did he start this text with situations of failure? With events, certainly that people who live day to day do not appreciate? I expected the five tips for living well the moment of New Year! “.

Yes, I did this on purpose, because evil is not found in evaluating or making our balance sheets, but in how we do it. The first action we commit is to overestimate what didn’t work. Unfortunately, our brain has a negative attraction, and with this attraction emerge feelings of guilt, remorse, self-condemnation etc., which, if not well managed, can paralyze us and stop us from having a full and happy life.

By the end of year may cause sadness

The end of the year can bring upon us feelings that border a depressive state and leave us, in fact, without a lot of will to live the new days coming (remembering that to diagnose depression the psychiatrist or psychologist must take into account several factors such as the duration, frequency and severity of the emotional state).

My sister, for example, recently told me: “Gee, Adriano, my professional life was not very well, I tried this and that, but it looks like nothing went right.” Yes, in fact, is something that brought angst, but, at the same time, she’s starting a new business, it’s ‘ stirring ‘ within the city, already she has several customers and it is moving well. I told her: “look how cool! You’re starting something new and promising; Sometimes, what we wanted was not in the plans of God, but with his claw, that new beginning may be in his plans. So, lance yourself into this new thing “.

The situation I presented above must be an insight for us, i.e. we can’t stay in this depressed state that accuses us all the time. Anything to keep your eyes on what went wrong, brooding and then building bitterness, bitterness, self-victimization, because it doesn’t make us well!

How to beat the new year sadness

There are some tips that can help us in this moment of New Year’s blue. In English, this term is used to refer to sadness that hits at the end of the year.

* Ask yourself: “For Me?”, not “Why me?”: the “Why me?” puts us in a position to stay looking at ourselves  and thus have a very limited view of the facts and events. That puts us in a position to look at the situation and act on it, using it to our advantage.

* Change in action: If, to do the assessment, we reach the conclusion that we need to change something, do, first, a firm commitment to ourselves and our potential. Do not become paralyzed, but we establish goals.

* Be specific: When we do a review of life, we look globally, but we must be specific in what was lived, giving weight to each thing. Sometimes, we have financial problems and, therefore, I say: “I’m a loser! There’s no way! ” … Calm down! It’s not like that. Weigh correctly, measure correctly.

* Examine your expectations: Are they real or illusory? Let’s face it! Sometimes, we get enough to buy a popular car, but I planned to buy a BMW. I don’t want to “throw cold water on you, but it’s better to divide goals into the steps than to try to take a leap greater than the leg can move.

* Dream the dreams of God: Everything I said above only has meaning if the first posture assumed is:”Is it within God’s will for me?”. Man, without this no way can you be fully happy. It’s not that God wants to manipulate us, but He knows what our heart really wants.

Anyway, look forward to what’s coming. Know what can not be changed and change our way of looking at life, because a new era is just beginning!

Together!