“Chastity is a moral virtue. It is also a gift from God, a grace, a fruit of spiritual effort. The Holy Spirit enables one whom the water of Baptism has regenerated to imitate the purity of Christ.” CCC 2345.
Chastity today is seen as a principle factor that is lacking in friendships, for each time more the world has dirtied, damaged and distorted this marvel created through God Himself that is the healthy living, it may be among person of the same or different genders.
“Friendship represent a great good for all and leads to spiritual communion”
We know how much friendship is important in our journey, The Word of God says “A faithful friend is a powerful protection, whomever finds one, discovers a treasure.” (Sirach 6:14), therefore we should value our friendships and cultivate them and sanctify them.
Whomever fears the Lord, orients well his friendship, as he is, so will be his friend.” (Sirach 6:17)
We men need always to be clear in our mind, that we need pure and sincere women as friends, this is because God uses the feminine presence to make fertile, to touch many masculine potentialities that we have, but that are retained and that only the feminine presence in our life, is capable of bringing them to light. With this we become more men, men of God.
So also I say to the women, for they also need the masculine presence in their lives, to make fertile all the feminine potential that they have kept within them, and that needs to come in order that they may become more women, women of God.
“Men become more men through the fertile presence of the woman. You that are women become more woman through the fertile presence of the man” (Mons. Jonas Abib).
How then to have a chaste and true friendship. Believe that a chaste friendship happens to the measure that we in particular, know our impurity, our limitations and weakness, gave steps to our process of inner healing until we may be more happy, we may have inner peace and we may relate better with our neighbor, for many of us need inner healing to be able to attain the ability to dominate our actions, for they can be the consequence of poorly resolved issued inside of us, as wounds not healed.
“Chastifying” our intentions, our conversations, our looks, our embraces, finally all that involves our friendship, we make us more free, happier, and with this our friendships will have more “flavor”, for person that live live with us and that relate with us, will be able to touch in this grace of purity of Christ that will be in us.
Chastity in our friendships, we are together raising this banner as well!
God bless you.
translated from Portuguese